{"id":247,"date":"2020-08-01T20:34:34","date_gmt":"2020-08-01T20:34:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/?p=247"},"modified":"2020-08-01T20:34:34","modified_gmt":"2020-08-01T20:34:34","slug":"8-reasons-adolescents-rebel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/?p=247","title":{"rendered":"8 reasons Adolescents Rebel"},"content":{"rendered":"

In my experience I have observed 8 root causes of Adolescent Rebellion.<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. RIGIDITY<\/span>,<\/span> witnessed in lectures, ultimates, absolutes, threats<\/span>.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. CONTRADICTIONS, for example, parents can\u2019t swear if the teen is forbade from swearing.\u00a0 It\u2019s just about respect<\/span>,<\/span> thus if the teen is expected to be respectful it is the parents<\/span>\u2019<\/span> obligation to show what respect looks like.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. UNPRODUCTIVE VOICE, for example, if the teen ever feels invalidated; their voice, their concerns are not heard and are<\/span> left unheeded. Validation is NOT about agreeing with the teen, it\u2019s about \u201cunderstanding their line of logic\u201d even if it differs from parents, even if it\u2019s just wrong.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  4. GAPS IN ATTACHMENT, for example, if the teen does not experience validation and accountability the teen will not feel safe and that will inhibit emotional maturity.\u00a0 This is NOT about Perfection, it\u2019s about Effort!\u00a0 Try to be accountable, try to be validating.\u00a0 And when you are not, validate the disappointment and be accountable to your mistakes (own them and try to fix them).\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  5. UNMET EXPECTATIONS, for example, the teen expects validation and accountability from significant people in their life<\/span> and from the world.\u00a0 This does not always happen so the teen gets angry and rebels against those same significant people and the world.\u00a0 They kind-of walk around with a slight sense of entitlement.\u00a0 But I validate that (I don\u2019t verbally agree, I just understand their line of logic). I tell them they do deserve validation and accountability from their parents (or other significant loved ones) and from the world and explain<\/span> how I understand the disappointment, frustration and pain they must experience with that unmet need; that unmet expectation.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  6. NOT wanting to be a BURDEN.\u00a0 Rebellion can look differently to different people.\u00a0 This phenomenon shapes so many people and their behaviors.\u00a0 They can rebel against themselves and it tends to manifest in self-destructive manners and or people-pleasing behaviors.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  7. PROJECTING anger and distrust of the world onto the safest people in their lives.\u00a0 Rebellious teens don\u2019t always have abusive or neglectful upbringings; sometimes their parents are really great, or articulate their insights and are<\/span> efficient with their emotional management and boundaries.\u00a0 But because life has thrown too many traumas at the family as a whole, like natural disasters, economic depressions, military demands to move frequently, etc<\/span>.<\/span>, the teen projects their anger at life onto the safest people, typically<\/span> his or her parents who have proven to always be there during all transitions.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n
  8. MARITAL DISCORD.\u00a0 Children and Teens sometimes rebel to distract the couple from their discord, to align the couple for the<\/span> sake of the teen, or to<\/span> emotionally absorb the discord and internalize it.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    Examine if any of the above applies to your teen and family; ASK your teen and family if any of the above applies.\u00a0 If you need more elaboration or support, hit up my calendar and we\u2019ll begin there.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    In my experience I have observed 8 root causes of Adolescent Rebellion.   RIGIDITY, witnessed in lectures, ultimates, absolutes, threats. CONTRADICTIONS, for example, parents can\u2019t swear if the teen is forbade from swearing.\u00a0 It\u2019s just about respect, thus if the teen is expected to be respectful it is the parents\u2019 obligation to show what respect…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/247"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=247"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/247\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":249,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/247\/revisions\/249"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=247"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=247"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=247"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}