{"id":253,"date":"2020-08-01T21:08:23","date_gmt":"2020-08-01T21:08:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/?p=253"},"modified":"2020-08-01T21:08:23","modified_gmt":"2020-08-01T21:08:23","slug":"boundaries","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/?p=253","title":{"rendered":"Boundaries"},"content":{"rendered":"

Yes, there are books and books (and now social media and the internet<\/span>,<\/span> etc<\/span>.<\/span>) about Boundaries.\u00a0 Here\u2019s how I break down this concept for application!<\/span><\/p>\n

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BOUNDARIES<\/b><\/p>\n

Boundaries keep Self and Others <\/span>Safe<\/b>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Emotions give us information about our Boundary Status: crossed, respected, ignored, etc.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Boundaries can be physical and mental.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Examples of physical boundaries:<\/span><\/p>\n

Time<\/span><\/p>\n

Frequency<\/span><\/p>\n

Distance<\/span><\/p>\n

Body<\/span><\/p>\n

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Examples of mental boundaries are in the form of Communication:<\/span><\/p>\n

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When <\/span>yes<\/b>\u2019s are received with follow-up<\/span><\/p>\n

When <\/span>no<\/b>\u2019s are received with respect and trust<\/span><\/p>\n

When <\/span>maybe<\/b>\u2019s are received with understanding and curiosity<\/span><\/p>\n

When <\/span>I don\u2019t know<\/b>\u2019s are received with patience and creativity<\/span><\/p>\n

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Yes<\/b>\u2019s are easy enough.<\/span><\/p>\n

The <\/span>no<\/b>\u2019s really challenge trust issues so that can get more complicated.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe<\/b>\u2019s and<\/span> I don\u2019t know<\/b>\u2019s need to be addressed just as much as the others, not left to frustration.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019d appreciate elaboration or assistance with identifying, expressing AND enforcing Boundaries<\/span>,<\/span> hit up my calendar and we\u2019ll continue from there-<\/span><\/p>\n

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I capitalized AND because people tend to forget that having boundaries isn\u2019t enough; one must express and enforce them.\u00a0 And when one is new to this concept one tends to feel guilty during expression and enforcement.\u00a0 This is when I begin to work on the distinction between True and False Guilt.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0<\/span>Oh my gawd, April – what is False Guilt??\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

I\u2019m posting another blog about that one under, \u201cEmotional Management 101.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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Why are we trying to use Boundaries to become<\/span> and stay <\/span>Safe<\/b>?\u00a0 What\u2019s the big deal about Safety?<\/span><\/p>\n

Without it one cannot be curious.<\/span><\/p>\n

Without it one becomes emotionally stunted, relying on survival instincts and denial mechanisms.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Without it one cannot take healthy risks (yes, risk is as dangerous as it is necessary)<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

The human condition is curious and emotional and revels in risk.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Ask yourself now if you feel <\/span>safe<\/b>?\u00a0 Do you let others feel <\/span>safe<\/b>? If you answered no to either one of these questions I can help you with that, if you\u2019re so inclined.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Yes, there are books and books (and now social media and the internet, etc.) about Boundaries.\u00a0 Here\u2019s how I break down this concept for application!   BOUNDARIES Boundaries keep Self and Others Safe. Emotions give us information about our Boundary Status: crossed, respected, ignored, etc.\u00a0\u00a0 Boundaries can be physical and mental.   Examples of physical…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/253"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=253"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/253\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":255,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/253\/revisions\/255"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=253"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=253"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=253"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}