{"id":244,"date":"2020-08-01T20:25:58","date_gmt":"2020-08-01T20:25:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/?p=244"},"modified":"2020-08-01T20:25:58","modified_gmt":"2020-08-01T20:25:58","slug":"forgiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/?p=244","title":{"rendered":"Forgiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People often do not understand what Forgiveness is or what it even looks like.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is how I break it down for my clients:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It is a cognition, NOT an emotion.\u00a0 It is a conscious decision to make regarding the treatment in a relationship.\u00a0 The &#8220;feels&#8221; come much later, usually in some form of <em>relief<\/em>.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It is NOT about accepting or forgetting about anything.\u00a0 So it is not about accepting the offenses or forgetting about the abuse.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It is about Releasing Expectations and Adjusting Boundaries:<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We are to <\/span><b>release<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> the expectation that the offender should have, could have treated us better; it is <\/span><b>adjusting<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> the duration of time, space and\/or frequency of exposure to the relationship.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People have often heard Forgiveness is related to Anger.\u00a0 I concur as I associate anger to unmet needs or unmet expectations.\u00a0 It is often encouraged to let go of one&#8217;s anger; that is the intention with letting go of one&#8217;s expectations.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Anger gets the most attention<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">in \u201cpopular psychology\u201d or \u201cpop-psych\u201d (when a psychological concept is popular, advertised or sensationalized with the public) <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">but anger management is really Emotional Management as Anger is only one of four emotions that motivate us towards change.\u00a0 All to be elaborated in an upcoming blog-<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Psychotherapy helps with the validation and accountability of this process because it may initially seem unfair, unjust.\u00a0 Thus requiring consistent support until the relief is experienced.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>People often do not understand what Forgiveness is or what it even looks like.\u00a0\u00a0 This is how I break it down for my clients: It is a cognition, NOT an emotion.\u00a0 It is a conscious decision to make regarding the treatment in a relationship.\u00a0 The &#8220;feels&#8221; come much later, usually in some form of relief.\u00a0\u00a0&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/244"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=244"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/244\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":246,"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/244\/revisions\/246"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=244"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=244"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/practicaltherapyofedmonds.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=244"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}